How Can I Get My Boyfriend to Go to Rehab for Drug Abuse?
Question by Shana Hutchins: How can I get my boyfriend to go to rehab for drug abuse?
My boyfriend and I have been together a short time, 2 months. But have been close friends for about a year. I had no idea until I got into the relationship that he was still struggling with a drug problem, I just knew he had used in the past. But he started disappearing for hours, wouldn’t answer anyones calls, made up absurd excuses as to what happened. So I knew something was going on, but didn’t want to accuse since I didn’t know exactly what was going on. We have a great relationship and he treats me like gold but I don’t want to sit back and watch him ruin his life. He came to me a week ago and finally admitted to me what had been going on after he disappeared one night and told me he’s been doing cocaine. He told me that night he was snorting it, and I’m not sure if there’s other ways to do it since I have never used nor been exposed to drugs. He also told me he wanted help but I don’t know how I’m supposed to help him. After he told me this he used a week later again. The trust I had is completely broken and when he’s away I’m scared he is going to go use. I don’t know what to do. I would like for him to enter some type of professional rehab if he would be willing but don’t know how to approach the subject or if he would even be interested. I need some resources or any type of things we could do as a couple to help him through this and show him I’m here for support through it all. Any advice would be appreciated. I don’t want to leave him, and I would appreciate any negative comments kept to yourself. I need positive advice.
Best answer:
Answer by Naguru
Under the circumstance explained by you, it is best to take some moral, intellectual or spiritual support/help/guidance/suggestion from close quarters like your own parents. Or share your feelings openly with any of your trustworthy near and dear friends or relatives. You should not keep it a secret with them. Please explain all the above points to them and add some more, if you have forgotten.
Report to the appropriate authorities in Government for Drug abuse.
In future start your days with a little amount of prayers daily.
Answer by boystownhotline
Its great that you are reaching out for ways to get him some help. Overcoming an addiction is a very tough thing to do, and this would be something that he would need some help with. Sit down and talk to him about this, calmly and respectfully, so he doesn’t get defensive and is more open-minded to recieving help. Let him know that you understand he is struggling right now, and you want to help him. Tell him that you are concerned and afraid for him because he is hurting himself by doing drugs–what if he ‘accidently’ overdoses and doesn’t wake up one day? Tell him that. Ask him what he is willing to do to get help. If he doesn’t want to get help, doesn’t want to get away from the drugs, then getting him into rehab or a program won’t do any good, because he will continue to find ways to fuel his addiction and use. Ask him if he is willing to get help and change his situation. Then tell him that you will help him because you realize he might be scared and afraid of getting clean. If he says he is willing, check out some rehab inpatient programs. Get him to talk to his friends and family so there are people support him. Have him check out an NA (narcotics anonymous) support group, so he can work with a sponsor and have that motivation, support, and accountability. You can check out the National Drug and Alcohol Hotline, give them a call for some programs, or call us and we can look up some counseling and therapy referrals for him, if he’d rather go that route. Bottom line: he needs help, professional help, in getting over this addiction, but if he’s not willing to get the help he deserves, then it won’t do any good. Talk to him about how concerned you are because you care, and go from there. Good luck!
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